Indeed, this need of individuals to be right is so great that they are willing to sacrifice themselves, their relationships, and even love for it. — Reuel Howe
We may have an inner drive to be right – and even to prove we are right. We often have been expected to know about the world and how things work, as if our manhood were tied to knowing. So when we don’t know the right answer, or when a person disagrees with us, we may get upset because we feel our masculine honor is in question.
We should always remember that our honor requires being honest, not being right. Our masculinity is being true to ourselves as men, not being invincible. Demanding that our opinions always be accepted as right is destructive to our relationships. It cuts us off from people we love, and becomes hostile and selfish. We are learning to allow room for differences; we can love and respect people we disagree with. And we all have a right to be wrong part of the time.
I don’t have to have all the right answers. Today, my ideas are just one man’s honest thoughts.
This is the first entry that has “spoken” strongly to me from Touchstones (a daily meditation book geared specifically for men) since switching over from Blogger. My idea to leave this blog public was that hopefully other people may gain a small bit of help from the wisdom I find that helps me.
I have an irrational fear that any women that come across my blog may be “turned off” or something. I state the irrationality of that because I know I can find helpful concepts in ideas geared towards women, and people who are seeking to better themselves tend to be open-minded to wherever Wisdom arises.
I’m feeling like I need to get out of my head and pursue physical goals for my day now, after my 2 hour Zen sit and coffee.
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