Methods of avoiding actually dealing with the loneliness:
- Cape n Tights (trying to be everyone else’s savior)
- Personal Neglect
- Social isolation
Methods of confronting Loneliness:
- Connect through your sports, hobbies, passions or interests.
Meet likeminded people who share something that you also love. They will make time for you; other people already have full calendars.
- Borrow or adopt a dog and go walking.
People talk to people with dogs.
- Talk to senior citizens.
They have plenty of wisdom, time, and advice that they can share. By listening, you are also validating them as well as yourself.
- Expect it to be challenging.
It may be difficult for you, but don’t give up. Keep going but start with the easiest options first.
- Find out why you feel lonely.
Perhaps there is some bitterness, resentment, or guilt that you are carrying around. It is time to forgive yourself and others so that you have the best chance possible to connect with yourself and others.
Develop new routines and rituals to celebrate special occasions and reward your new healthy behaviors.
- Be brave.
It takes courage and persistence to overcome your bad habits—but it all starts with you, not someone else. Ask for help, seek some guidance, but take full responsibility for your happiness.
- Dream big.
Visualize what you want in the future and watch it materialize. Keep your vision sharp and clear.
Can you see how none of these suggest finding a partner or fixing the one you have? Isn’t that liberating? By connecting through various people, activities, or regular commitments, you are no longer dependent on a partner to complete you or help you overcome your feelings of loneliness.
And you may just find that when you are no longer lonely, you will be happy—with or without a partner.
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